This is the second to last post in the livebig365 love is series. It’s taken place during the month of July and has turned into a virtual cornucopia of offerings from vlogs, to riffs to youtube videos to some very sentimental writing from me.
Here’s the top 10 things I love about my oldest son, (by 10 minutes), Seb. Again, in no particular order:
- When Seb was less than three, Rupert and I finally had enough money to buy a new couch that replaced the old loveseat that we had been given by my mom and dad. We were really proud and bought what we thought was a kick-ass couch that could seat all four of us. After the first night the couch was installed, Seb rather quietly went missing. I found him in the basement lying on the old loveseat, crying pretty softly, telling it how much he missed it.
- He will do absolutely anything that is required for absolutely anyone. Honest to God, the shirt off his back is no trouble at all.
- He knows me better, in fact way way better, than I know myself and he is extremely patient with me. So, when he calls to ask me how I am doing, he really listens, and never ever responds immediately. I’ve learned a lot from that way of behaving.
- He loves hard, sometimes to his own detriment, and picks himself up, dusts himself off and starts all over again. Every single time.
- When he walks into a room, and he doesn’t even realize it, everyone looks up from what they are doing.
- I’ve had some tough times when Seb has been on the other end of the phone and he just listens. He doesn’t say anyting, he just listens.
- He believes in the goodness of our family, all six of us, and in many many small and virtually undetected ways, has quietly helped this refurbished and reconstituted version of ourselves to a place of energized loveliness. He does it all behind the scenes, not really looking for any credit.
- When I found out I was having twins it was during the standard 18 week sonogram. I remember two things distinctly about this life-changing moment; the first was the look of incredulous panic on Rupert’s face when the technician announced that she saw two babies, and the second was a moment quite soon after that, when I saw Seb, who was in one sac, reach out to Dyl in the other and touch his fingertips. He has reached for him that way ever since. It is a unique, sometimes unfathomable relationship that oftentimes makes me feel teary.
- I describe him to people as a 6’4″ quivering mass of jelly. He’s tall and hulking and the sweetest, and really really really would never harm a fly.
- I just absolutely love everything about him.
Thanks for being in my life, Seb. The gift is all mine.